Welcoming you to my blog. PART 1/6 – a guide for parents. (welcome)
Previously I spoke briefly about what I wanted to achieve in these blogs, I will be talking about the basics to controlling your ADHD, or helping a loved one who has ADHD.
You need to remember one very important thing before we go ahead, emotions. Emotions are the key role to ADHD, and having control over your emotions, gives you full control over your whole mind.
These other things are also important factors:
- Discipline
- Attention
Discipline plays a large part in controlling ADHD, you need to be able to discipline yourself, or a loved one. I used to know I could get away with anything if I started to cry. I played my parents emotions to my favour, every time I couldn’t get my way, I’d make a fuss. This fuss would work to my advantage. Do not be scared to say NO. You need to show that you’re in charge, this is a mistake my parents made, and I was in control of the situation. I recommend NEVER showing any physical or mental agression towards your child, this will reflect upon them!
Being in control of the situation gives you the advantage over your loved one. Do not think for a second they are sorry when they’ve misbehaved. You need to show them that if they’ve misbehaved, they will not get away with it. DO NOT give in to crying, apologies, or “I love you mummy, daddy, etc”. They are working out what makes you soft.
Now you’re thinking “WOW”, this is a little harsh. It’s really not, its reality. Your child’s mind is developing a whole life of its own, and your child will be working out how they can get away with being naughty. I can say from my experience I did genuinely struggle with my emotions & ADHD. It wasn’t easy, but I knew when I was in control for a certain situation.
Discipline played a big role in my life, without it, I dread to think where I’d be. When they’ve done something wrong, you need to let them know what it is, and it’s not acceptable. If this means taking away something they enjoy doing, i.e iPad, TV, then take it away!
My parents & school worked for years to get me ready for the real world, and it really wasn’t an easy task. You have to be determined you want your child to have the best chance of success through school. If they are out of control at school, this will surely domino effect on to their adult life.
It may seem harsh disciplining your child, but as I was, they’ll be extremely thankful in the long run.
I will speak about praise, and rewarding your child for good behaviour in my next blog.
